We all collectively spin out of control. It manifests itself differently from person to person. We get triggered, viscerally impacted, and have the tendency to spontaneously react, and often overact. We lose sight of our relationship and turn narrowly into our...
This is Part 2 of a series. Read Part 1 here. The abundance of reads on my most recent Psychology Today article (Part 1, above) was to me a real indication of a growing issue that has become pervasive across the country. My colleagues and I are collectively seeing a...
The question I’m asked most often is, “How can I stop my mind when it’s spinning out of control?” Our mind draws us in, often in an automatic, intense, steadfast way. Before we know it, we’re ruminating, and we spiral into a plethora of unwieldy thoughts and feelings....
The idea of accepting what is becomes so disconcerting, especially when there's deep pain attached to an event or circumstance. Acceptance doesn't mean resignation, that the circumstance goes away, or we necessarily feel better about it. The impact and emotions it...
6 tips for accepting tradeoffs and achieving your goals. We have critical decisions we must make daily. We explore whether we want to leave or renegotiate a relationship, explore new career opportunities, assess options for our health, among many other things. Our...
Make meaning, fortify gratitude, and live in the present moment. I work with an array of patients who very often express regrets. I hear, “I wish I didn’t say what I did, I just inadvertently and impulsively blurted it out”, “If only I chose another college, then I...
Relate to your mind like a tantruming child. A growth mindset, was coined by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck and colleagues, which stipulates the belief that a person's talents, intelligence, and abilities can be developed and improved over time through effort,...
Gain emotional intelligence by being in the “yuck.” Defining Your "Yuck" We all have a stuck “yuck” part. “Yuck” is the average human feeling/emotion or emotional state that holds substantial meaning to us individually and where we have not been able to effectively...
For the mind that overthinks, worries, catastrophizes, races, and/or ruminates. Dear Mind, While you are a vital organ that helps me in fundamental ways, I realize that I have a divisive relationship with you. I am hoping to improve the relationship, as I realize that...
It's a sure way to lead to your unhappiness. We grow up with very distinct messages, both overtly and subliminally, that the most sought after state is one of “happiness”, a “positive attitude” and eternal “gratitude.” Our society supports these ideas and ideals. Take...
