The idea of accepting what is becomes so disconcerting, especially when there's deep pain attached to an event or circumstance. Acceptance doesn't mean resignation, that the circumstance goes away, or we necessarily feel better about it. The impact and emotions it...
6 tips for accepting tradeoffs and achieving your goals. We have critical decisions we must make daily. We explore whether we want to leave or renegotiate a relationship, explore new career opportunities, assess options for our health, among many other things. Our...
Make meaning, fortify gratitude, and live in the present moment. I work with an array of patients who very often express regrets. I hear, “I wish I didn’t say what I did, I just inadvertently and impulsively blurted it out”, “If only I chose another college, then I...
Relate to your mind like a tantruming child. A growth mindset, was coined by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck and colleagues, which stipulates the belief that a person's talents, intelligence, and abilities can be developed and improved over time through effort,...
Gain emotional intelligence by being in the “yuck.” Defining Your "Yuck" We all have a stuck “yuck” part. “Yuck” is the average human feeling/emotion or emotional state that holds substantial meaning to us individually and where we have not been able to effectively...
For the mind that overthinks, worries, catastrophizes, races, and/or ruminates. Dear Mind, While you are a vital organ that helps me in fundamental ways, I realize that I have a divisive relationship with you. I am hoping to improve the relationship, as I realize that...
It's a sure way to lead to your unhappiness. We grow up with very distinct messages, both overtly and subliminally, that the most sought after state is one of “happiness”, a “positive attitude” and eternal “gratitude.” Our society supports these ideas and ideals. Take...
The solutions we need for building a growth mindset We all fall victim to beating ourselves up. For some of us it is merciless and for others it may just be our initial thoughts and we are easily able to brush it off and merely take notice of it, rather than buy into...
Life is Too Short and Precious to Live Any Other Way It is sadly the second anniversary of my nephew’s death. On this day I also treated trauma survivors in my practice and did evaluations for chronically medically ill individuals who want to create video legacies for...
Move in this direction for self-growth.
