We all collectively spin out of control. It manifests itself differently from person to person. We get triggered, viscerally impacted, and have the tendency to spontaneously react, and often overact. We lose sight of our relationship and turn narrowly into our...
8 Mantras to Stop Your Mind From Spinning Out of Control: Calming Sentiments to Help Lead Your Mind from Anxiety to Peace.
This is Part 2 of a series. Read Part 1 here. The abundance of reads on my most recent Psychology Today article (Part 1, above) was to me a real indication of a growing issue that has become pervasive across the country. My colleagues and I are collectively seeing a...
How to Stop Your Mind When It Spins Out of Control
The question I’m asked most often is, “How can I stop my mind when it’s spinning out of control?” Our mind draws us in, often in an automatic, intense, steadfast way. Before we know it, we’re ruminating, and we spiral into a plethora of unwieldy thoughts and feelings....
Working Through Tradeoffs Is Key to Your Personal Growth and Success
6 tips for accepting tradeoffs and achieving your goals. We have critical decisions we must make daily. We explore whether we want to leave or renegotiate a relationship, explore new career opportunities, assess options for our health, among many other things. Our...
Getting Up When Life Smacks You in the Head
Five strategies for building resilience. In many ways, Summer 2020 beat me down hard: COVID was rampant, my kids were home, my business was slow, and my anxiety was high. However, last summer also lifted me up in ways I never would have expected. How? The resilience I...
8 Ways Regret Can Lead to Your Personal Growth:
Make meaning, fortify gratitude, and live in the present moment. I work with an array of patients who very often express regrets. I hear, “I wish I didn’t say what I did, I just inadvertently and impulsively blurted it out”, “If only I chose another college, then I...
The Ultimate Growth Mindset Exercise
Relate to your mind like a tantruming child. A growth mindset, was coined by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck and colleagues, which stipulates the belief that a person's talents, intelligence, and abilities can be developed and improved over time through effort,...
The Intrigue of Revenge Fantasies
Who is prone to them, what role do they play, and how to effectively heal. The desire for revenge is a universal personal response in all human cultures. The greater the harm and transgression caused, typically the greater the desire for revenge. I have a patient who...
Why Practicing Self-Love Isn’t Optional but Necessary
12 ways to practice it and getting on board with the #HowBeautifulChallenge. I had the honor of interviewing the band On the Outside. They are inspirationally challenging youth and others to cultivate body positivity and self-love with their #HowBeautifulChallenge....
A Letter to Your Anxious Mind
For the mind that overthinks, worries, catastrophizes, races, and/or ruminates. Dear Mind, While you are a vital organ that helps me in fundamental ways, I realize that I have a divisive relationship with you. I am hoping to improve the relationship, as I realize that...