Thoughts of a Therapist
Open Letter on Ending a Relationship With Someone You Love:
Who Knew Love Could Hurt This Much? It seems so unnatural to end a relationship with someone we feel love toward. We are taught that love should withstand the test of time, until death do us part, and that if you love someone, it is expected that we should make it...
What Do You Do if You and Your Child Aren’t a Good Fit?
Six ways to attach with kindness and connection. Attachment theory explains how the parent-child relationship emerges and influences subsequent development in relationships. John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth suggested that early attachment experience creates life-long...
An Open Letter From an Adult Child to Their Parents
We never outgrow needing to be accepted and validated. I took a poll of 50 adults and asked them to write down and indicate what is the one thing they would want their parent to know. They had an opportunity to have either one or both parents in mind and could write...
8 Lessons You Should Teach Your Children About Relationships
Parenting your children with relational attunement and conscientiousness. There is certainly no instruction booklet on how to help our children foster positive relationships. The way we first learn to socialize is through modeling our parent’s behavior, by process of...
8 Ways Regret Can Lead to Your Personal Growth:
Make meaning, fortify gratitude, and live in the present moment. I work with an array of patients who very often express regrets. I hear, “I wish I didn’t say what I did, I just inadvertently and impulsively blurted it out”, “If only I chose another college, then I...
The Ultimate Growth Mindset Exercise
Relate to your mind like a tantruming child. A growth mindset, was coined by Stanford psychologist Carol Dweck and colleagues, which stipulates the belief that a person's talents, intelligence, and abilities can be developed and improved over time through effort,...
